"A lot of times, I've noticed, when we say yes we figure we have to know all the details or we feel we have to justify our yeses. We feel if we say yes we have to tie it to our worth (and more than likely, we don't feel worthy enough because we haven't fully said yes to God's love and grace)."
As I listen to others and even myself, I realize it's more out of habit that we say no, than thinking and acting on yes. It's as if the right, sacred answer is no. It has become the place where we reside and have become comfortable.
Is it that we find saying no easier? Is it that saying no requires less effort than saying yes? Do we think saying no protects us from pain, failure or rejection? In some cases it does. It's smart to say no to some things. But when it becomes automatic it suggests that we have closed parts of ourselves off from the abundance God has for us. Essentially, we're saying no to life. Saying no doesn't keep us "grounded" in "real life," it keeps us away from God's goodness and from our inner gifts. We say no before we realize what we're saying no to.
And we hear no more than necessary. No, you can't be a professional woman, wife and mother. No, you can't be a good father because you didn't have a father. No, you can't travel the world alone. No, you can't afford this or that. No, you aren't good enough or smart enough or skinny enough or tall enough or fill in the blank.
Not only are we constantly berated by the no the world freely offers, think about all the times we tell ourselves no! No, I'm not qualified for that job I desire. No, I'm not worthy of being a wife or a husband. No, I can't start my own business. No, I can't lose weight. No, God can't possibly be calling me to do that...! No, I can't or I'm not ... You get the picture. The list is endless and easily can become our sad reality.
If we are committed to following the teachings of Jesus, we know that saying yes is paramount. Yes to what takes us out of our comfort zone and allows us to grow. Yes to what and where God has called us to be. Yes to our dreams. Yes to love. Yes to creativity. Yes to service. Yes to taking risks. Yes to committing to the path. Yes to staying awake while on it. Yes to embracing all of who we are. Yes to a life of joy, peace and good health.
A lot of times, I've noticed, when we say yes we figure we have to know all the details or we feel we have to justify our yeses. We feel if we say yes we have to tie it to our worth (and more than likely, we don't feel worthy enough because we haven't fully said yes to God's love and grace). We feel we have to say the who, how, when and why to ourselves and others the moment we claim our yes. Fill in all the blanks. But as with all things on this spiritual path, faith lights the way.
Faith is our answer. You can say yes without having the details! It's okay to say, "Yes, I deserve more pay," without knowing how that will happen. Or, "Yes, I want marriage," without yet knowing who God has to be your mate. We can say yes without having to explain to ourselves or others why we "deserve" what we're saying yes to. After all, we're not saying yes because we earned the gift, we're saying yes because it's a gift from God that we are delighted to be offered and able to accept. And what about, "Yes, God loves me just as I am!"? Can you say that?! :-)
OK, I would like you to try something this week:
- Take a day and pay attention to how much you tell yourself "no". You might be surprised. I was when I did it last week! We are light, God's Beloved. We are the yes. Who are we to say we are not? Who are we to block the work and truth of God operating through us? Who are we to doubt ourselves if and when we know who we are in Christ?
- Begin saying yes. Open yourself to the love and beauty God already has for you. It's not even that you need to do anything to attract the good, you just have to say yes to it. It already exists! No manmade creation necessary. But saying yes, and being open to it, is a part of the process.
Coming from the place of yes is a spiritual practice. It's something we have to learn and do, not out of habit, but with right intentions. It's something we have to take into our prayer time. Sit with in silence. Trust God to give us the desires of our heart when we have surrendered it to the Spirit and have aligned ourselves to It.
Life's biggest gift is the choice we have to come from the place of yes. This place exists deep within us even if we were raised to believe differently or have come to see the world as a place of no. Remember, we are in the world but certainly do not have to be of it. This is the greater truth. Decide to exchange your place of residence from the place of no to the place of yes. Your life is waiting for the experience.